Give time to your family
After 21 years of marriage, his wife asked him to take another woman out to dinner and a movie. She said, “I love you, but I know that the other woman loves you and would love to spend some time with you.”
The other woman that the wife wanted her husband to visit was his MOTHER, who has been a widow for 19 years. Due to work load and family commitment the man could visit his lonely mother only occasionally. That night he called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie.
-What’s wrong son, are you well? she asked.
The lonely mother is a type of woman who suspects that a late night call or a surprise invitation is a sign of bad news.
-I thought that it would be pleasant to spend some time with you. He responded. -Just the two of us. She thought about it for a moment, and then said, “I would like that very much.”
That Friday after work, as he drove over to pick her up, he was a bit nervous. When he arrived at her house, he noticed that she, too, seemed to be nervous about the date. She waited in the door with her coat on. She had curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate her last wedding anniversary. She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an angel’s.
-I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they were impressed. She said, as she got into the car. -They can’t wait to hear about our meeting.
They went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy. Mother took the arm of her son as if she were the First Lady. After they sat down, son had to read the menu. Her eyes could only read large print. Half way through the entries, son lifted his eyes and saw his Mom sitting there staring at him. A nostalgic smile was on her lips.
“It was I who used to have to read the menu when you were small,” she said. “Then it’s time that you relax and let me return the favor,” Son responded. During the dinner, they had an agreeable conversation – nothing extraordinary but catching up on recent events of each other’s life. They talked so much that they missed the movie. As they arrived at her house later, she said, “I’ll go out with you again, but only if you let me invite you.” Son agreed.
“How was your dinner date?” asked his wife when he got home. “Very nice. Much more so than I could have imagined,” He answered.
A few days later, his mother died of a massive heart attack. It happened so suddenly that the son didn’t have a chance to do anything for her. Sometime later, he received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place he and his mother had dined. An attached note said: “I paid this bill in advance. I wasn’t sure that I could be there; but nevertheless, I paid for two plates – one for you and the other for your wife. You will never know what that night meant for me. I love you, son.”
Moral: It is very important of saying in time: “I LOVE YOU” and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve. Nothing in life is more important than your family. Give them the time they deserve, because these things cannot be put off till “some other time.”
Col. Meher Mohabbat Hossain (Retd.)
I had a long career in Army. I was trained to follow orders, instructions and set rules, taking those as axiomatic. That strayed me a bit from free thinking as happens with all technology users. Basically I am a free thinker always and now in search of some basic truth in my own way. ([email protected]).